Time To Break Bad Dating Habits, Stop Falling For The Same “Type”

How many times, if ever, have you said,

“They’re not my type.”
What was it about this person that didn’t jibe with all the others you’d dated and failed with? So often singles think they know when a person is right for them but if that were true, you probably wouldn’t be single. Just saying.

When single men and women describe their “type” it’s typically the kind of person that they have an instant physical attraction to or connection with. All single people have two kinds of “types”; the kind that doesn’t want you and the kind that does you dirty. When you routinely find that you are attracted to the same kind of person that does not equal a “type” it equals a pattern; of failure.

While watching the season finale of The Millionaire Matchmaker, the male contestant guest claimed that white and Latina women were his “type” then admitted that everyone he’d dated in the past, including his ex-fiancé, were nothing but triflin’-ass, gold-diggers.

So maybe his “type” is triflin’-ass, gold-diggers and maybe your type is someone who you think is out of your league that you continually jumps through hoops for yet still get nothing in return. A bad pattern is not a type!

The sad reality of dating is that you’re “type” probably doesn’t want you. It’s simple deduction. You’ve meet enough of a similar type of person to have deemed them your “type” but you’re still single. Hmm?

So often I see men chasing after women who are only mildly interested. After wining and dining these women, bending over backwards for their affection, the relationship falls apart. Big surprise.“Types” can sometimes be fantasies of what we think we want because we feel attraction and mistake it for compatibility. When singles date the same person over and over, they call it a “type” but if this person was meant for you, you would be with them. When someone wants to be with you, they don’t dump you and chances are if they dump you they were not your “type”.

How often do you hear married couples, or couples in general say:

  • She wasn’t exactly my type
  • He’s not the type of guy I generally date

When single men and women narrow the dating pool down to who they find an instant attraction with they sell themselves short. “Types” are nothing more than the commonalities that connect past lovers. Why would you want to keep making the same mistakes with the same kind of people?

The best way to enjoy dating is not to have a type. We all have preferences but the wider net you cast the better your chances will be. I know it’s hard to tell the difference between a type and a preference but the way to tell is that your “type” probably doesn’t want you. You’re “type” won’t easily fall into your lap and you will not live happily ever after with your “type”.

Pursue potential dates that want to be with you and who don’t add drama to your life. This may seem like a novel concept to some, since singles constantly mistake conflict and strife with chemistry. Stepping out of your comfort zone is necessary. Especially if what you’ve been doing isn’t working.

6 thoughts on “Time To Break Bad Dating Habits, Stop Falling For The Same “Type”

  1. I was just thinking about this as a friend of mine has set me up with someone and I’m sitting on the fence about pursuing anything futher because of what you wrote about. Dating type really isn’t it, truly it should be dating habit or addiction to type.

    When people often say type I think they know what they are used to and like that, however to break out of this is truly what you are saying; mix it up!

    1. Exactly right! Singles often confuse attraction with compatibility. The truth is our types are likely to seduce us. It may feel good but it never lasts. If you want real potential with people that you date falling for the same type won’t help. Though you may not instantly feel chemistry it doesn’t mean the courtship isn’t worth pursuing. It’s best to date with an open mind. Also, I don’t believe most peoples types are meant for them. They are fantasies and the relationship usually fails.

  2. Not sure about the breaking up. Yet everytime I see you I know I want to see you again. And for fear of putting my foot in my mouth I keep the witty banter to a minimum. Oh and your blog is kind of a guilty pleasure.

    1. Ismael i think you just have great taste. You also have alot of great ideas which is why I love that you read my blog. Also why I constantly entertain your shenanigans. If you ever wanted to write a guest posts I think men would love to hear what you had to say on dating, women and relationships. Let me know. The Dating Truth loves being anyone’s guilty pleasure.

  3. Maybe that’s one reason I want to pursue you because your the total opposite of what I’m use to its intimidating and exciting. And I’m sure I’m not the kind of man you normally date. Yet I guess I’m up to the challenge

  4. well, it is easier said than done. This ‘ type’ thing happens on unconscious level, we do not even notice how it happened but it does. .

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