Is Texting Is A Sure Sign You’re Playing Games?

“Technology does not run an enterprise, relationships do”- Patricia Fripp

Everyone is obsessed with the lengths texting has taken dating in the last few years.

It’s become a standard form of communication for many singles who are just too lazy, scared or immature to pick up the f*cking phone and use it for what it’s for, making calls. I know first hand how helpful the advancement of smart phones have been to single men and women.

As a past player myself, text messages and my former favorite app ‘straight to voicemail’, have allowed me to reach out to dates who otherwise I would avoid. I understand the frustrations some people have with texting because I am guilty of over texting. As a woman with challenges in intimacy the text allows me to seem like I care without actually having to care. To be honest, I just don’t feel like I have the time to devote all of my brain cells to a phone call. And honestly, I haven’t met a man of late whose voice I care to hear.

Maybe it’s my dude side but I absolutely hate talking to the opposite sex on the phone. First of all, some part of my hearing doesn’t distinguish deep voices anyway. But that’s just me. If you live far away I might hit you up on Skype, *updated to whatsapp since 2014 but when you don’t hear the phone ring, that’s me calling.

To be fair, there are men who I really like, that I have never had a conversation with over the phone because I just don’t want to get that close to them. But I will say that texting has done one thing for dating and communication that every person can be thankful for, separating who’s into you and from who is just playing around. I’m not sure how single men feel about it but single women are fed up with texting as a sole form of communication. *this still remains to be true.

If feels like anyone who would rather text you, then call you hasn’t made you a priority. I understand the benefits of the written word better than anyone but as a dating expert, I also understand how frustrated many women have become with the text game. And hint, once you send those naked pictures, you aren’t getting them back.

I’m all for technology but it doesn’t make you old-fashioned if you don’t like it. It also doesn’t make you weird if you’d rather not date via text. So for anyone who wants to make it out the text game a winner, here’s how.

Don’t Respond

It might sound rude but the best way to get the attention of an avid texter, when you aren’t one, is to not respond.

If you meet someone, exchange numbers and they send you a text, even the most innocent “it was a pleasure to meet you”, don’t respond. This is a great way to determine what I call who is ’bout it. If someone really likes you, they’ll text you again. If their confidence hinges on your attention, then they won’t and maybe you don’t want to date that person anyway.

The telltale sign is if someone who talked a big game in person doesn’t follow up with it, just because you didn’t respond to their text. They never meant to take you out anyway.

If you’re a woman and you can appreciate a gentleman, wait for a phone call. The strongest message you can send that new age dating isn’t for you, is not to send one.

Tell Them to Call

Many women don’t want to put their foot down in dating, and I’m not sure why.

Women have the power. If a man starts getting into the habit of texting you, and you are sick of it, send them a simple response, ‘Call me when you can,’ ‘Call me when you get home’ ‘Call me in a bit’. I don’t care how you want to spin it. If someone who is into you will call you. Men always say they don’t know what women want, if you want a call ask for it. I don’t want to hear the argument of why don’t women call if it’s such a big deal. I’m not calling because I don’t want to.

If you don’t like it, move on to the next. As I often say, dems da rules. Women should not be afraid that a man will move on if you ask him to call you, how messed up is that logic? If a man wants to date you, and you require phone calls, he’ll call. If he doesn’t want to date you then he’ll move on. The idea is that it’s ok to ask for him to invest. On a date, when a man pays, you’re asking him to invest because you’re investing in return. Asking for a phone call is no different.

I want to make it clear that I endorse texting as a great tool and I encourage everyone to do it. The idea isn’t to abolish all texting, the point is to establish effective communication. Singles should not, however, let technology take the place of you having balls. I won’t accept a date via text if I don’t want to.

Make it clear that you prefer to be called, if you do.

If your potential date doesn’t get that just keep them as a friend, or move on. You don’t want someone in your life who isn’t flexible, and you don’t want to get so caught up in the written words that you forget the intentions behind them. The problem isn’t texting, the problem is texting more than talking. If you’re in a purely textual relationship, you’re probably getting led on.

8 thoughts on “Is Texting Is A Sure Sign You’re Playing Games?

  1. I have found that guys under the age of 30 usually text and like you said you need to ask for them to call. I have asked guys to call me, the ones that are into me do call but the ones that aren’t so much will call when I ask them but revert back to texting afterwards. It’s hard for a girl b/c she EXPECTS a guy to just “know” to call. One, he probably is use to just texting females who don’t have the same mindset like you when it comes to phone calls. Two you can’t expect him to call you when you don’t take the initiative as well. A man will put the least amount of effort to reap the most benefits and usually we women give in!

    1. great points! The truth is some men are lazy, some are playing games and some are really scared. I always suggest women ask to be called if the man doesn’t do it on his own initiative before things get too out of hand and the next thing you know, you never call each other. We are still looking for those little signs of interest and it’s hard to find them in text messages. You have to make reasonable demands in to get when you want. Most women too don’t mind the texting, just not all of the time.

  2. women that read this, don’t listen to what the article states, texting is more convienient and if you start throwing you weight around within a couple of days, then it is game over for the relationship

  3. “I absolutely hate talking to the opposite sex on the phone.”
    Finally,I know I’m not alone! I’d much rather prefer meeting in person … don’t mind texting but absolutely hate phone calls!

  4. People are just full of shit these days…plain and simple. If a person id texting you religiously but won’t pick up the phone, they are full of it. It shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that one out.

  5. Guys don’t Text…Women don’t respond to Texting…
    I also don’t like long phone calls either but a short sweet call is enough..

    texting is waaaaaay too lazy…..guys If you can find a nice lady that is low mait that short sweet call in between dates makes her happy …hang on to her…your next chick will want you to spend your money and require all kinds of Stuff you cannot afford then run off with your friend

  6. I know this if off topic but I’m looking into starting my own blog and was curious what all is required to get setup?
    I’m assuming having a blog like yours would cost a pretty penny?

    I’m not very internet smart so I’m not 100% sure.
    Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

    Many thanks

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