How To Get A Guy To Text You Back Faster

What do you do when a potential date only wants to text but just doesn’t reply in a timely manner? Nothing is more annoying than waiting for a text message reply except possibly when the response is a mere: k. Like it or not, texting has become a certified method of communication. We use text as a way to interact with almost everyone in our lives so when it comes to dating, most singles feel more comfortable texting than speaking.

If you have an Iphone you know what it’s like to hang on anxiously as those speech bubbles flash tentatively on your screen only to have them disappear with no answer.

As if to say, “I thought about it.”

But what happens when you’re in text only communication mode and the man seems to lose track of time when it comes to his replies. It’s frustrating!

Men aren’t responding to your text for two reasons:

They’re doing something they find more important than texting you
They don’t have anything to say

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about texting with men it’s this: text a man, like a man.
When you send texts to a man in the same way he texts you, you’re going to get a quicker response than if you text like a woman. First, think of why you’re texting him in the first place. More often than not you’re trying to get him to ask you out or show you some attention. You want to see him but he hasn’t made the moves so you’ve decided to help him along via a text.

If you haven’t heard from the man you’re into for some time instead of just texting, ‘hey’ or ‘what’s up’ think about the way men text women to get their attention.

“Hey handsome.”

“Hey sexy man.”

“I bet you look so hot right now.”

These phrases might seem forward but they’re in fact very playful.

They are the language men use to communicate with women so they are especially appealing for a man to get from women. Does that sound like “game”? It should because plain and simple it is. You don’t want a man to think that every time you text each other it’s going to be an hour long intense conversation. You’re texting him so that he thinks about you and feels good knowing that you’re thinking about him.

Your text doesn’t always have to require a response. Even if he texts you back, leave him wanting more but not responding.  If you want to plan a date with him send a brief text about certain activities or restaurants. Keep in mind that this is hinting, a form of communication that men don’t always understand.

Send a picture of a restaurant or activity and ask, “Have you been?”

Follow up with, “I really want to try it.”

Suggestive texts intrigue men. They will respond quickly to encourage the courtship or to shut it down.

He might say, “You should.” 

But if he likes you he will say, “We should.” 

If you approach your texts as a way to open communication and not just when you want something men are quicker to respond. Keep your replies, answers and texts brief. Stay true to the twitter rule of texting: no more than 140 characters. Just in case you can’t keep count just be to the point. The longer your messages the less likely a man is to respond. Most men don’t want to solely communicate via text they are just lazy. As a culture we all are. Leave somethings unread in the courtship and save then for face to face conversations.

The reason a man might not respond to your messages quickly is because you’ve already told him everything he needs to know in one (or three) texts. There’s nothing for him to ask so he won’t text you until he has something to say.

One last thing to remember when texting a man is: have confidence.

A needy text will come across that way. Be confident that he hasn’t hit you up because he’s genuinely busy. Don’t get so anxious about hearing from him that you become desperate. Your anxiety will translate via SMS message. If a man isn’t responding as quickly as you would like to your messages either make it known or stick to the old-fashioned phone call.

13 thoughts on “How To Get A Guy To Text You Back Faster

  1. You should always keep him on his toes, make him wonder what your doing, what your wearing etc. But make sure you don’t say anything that may push him away. Treat him with respect and show him how much you really love him. Hope this helps

  2. I am pregnant but the baby’s dad doesn’t think it’s his baby he wont talk to me or come to the appointments i love this man with everything. I need to know how to keep him and to tell him that this baby is his and i want us to be a family. Please help me

    1. Thank you for your question. Without knowing much about the situation I can offer this solution: try to remove meaning from his response. Often times we want someone to text us back because we want to know that they care about us. Responding to a text is the courteous thing to do. If he is not responding to your texts its likely he wants to send a message. What that message is, I can’t be sure but it’s not a good one. If you remove the meaning from his lack of response hopefully it will matter less to you whether he responds or not. Yes, it’s the polite thing to do but once you’ve shared what you wanted to share just leave it at that. Stop expecting him to respond and don’t read meaning into whether he doesn’t. I hope this was helpful.

  3. I know a woman that ia a strictly text person and she’s very brief. She and I used to talk but now all of a sudden she is back with her ex gf. We are now platonic friends and I’d like to get her to respond to my texts.

    P.S. I really don’t think she is with her ex or has a gf at all. I believe that she still may be out there just playing the field. And if so, that’s fine I just want to develop a strong friendship with her.

    Any suggestions on how to text her/come at her? I know this is a lot. Have a great day 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for your comment. When you’re trying to get to know someone better the best thing you can do is make it easy for them to engage you. Make it clear what you want and why you want to be in their life and have them in yours. Also, be open to the fact that people are skeptical and might assume that you have a hidden agenda. In this case, it sounds like you have to be patient and try to grow the friendship over time. If she’s interested great, if not, well accept that and remain open to the friendship. Sometimes you test a person to see if they really want to be a friend or if they’re just being patient and waiting for an opportunity to lower your defenses. The best thing you can do, is to really get to know her and show her that you care about her as a person. I hope this was helpful.

  4. There is this guy I like so much and I want him to see us as more than friends. He sends mixed signs so I don’t know if he likes me that way. What should I do

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