Most women are strong and independent enough to speak to potential dates without pause. For so long, women have been taught to be the receiver of the attention that flirting skills aren’t honed until later in life. Being flirtatious is a very valuable skill in dating. It signals romantic interest and it can open the door to getting a phone number or making a date.
Unfortunately, most women will confess that they don’t know how to flirt. This can make it difficult to know when a man is interested.
If you see a guy you like, there are certain flirting techniques that will show you’re interested in him without coming on too strong. The best solution is to start the flirtation and make it easy for the man to follow your lead. It’s simple to do and it doesn’t take the power away from the man to takeover the lead and ask you out.
Flirting is easier than you think. It’s a combination of smiling, eye contact and positive energy. Flirting is nothing more than making someone else feel good when they’re around you. You can flirt with anyone at anytime. It’s a conscious intention to elevate the mood of the person you’re speaking with.
Flirting isn’t sexual or salacious it’s just a conversation with a smile. If you’ve been afraid to flirt in the past these advanced flirting styles are a great place to start. In this article there are 5 simple techniques for being more flirtatious and fun with men that work almost every time. With these few tips you can boost your flirt game and secure the attention of the man that you’re interested in.
THE COMPLIMENT STYLE
Everyone loves a great compliment, yes, even men. If you see a handsome stranger give him a compliment specifically detailing what you’ve noticed about him. Avoid the general compliment, such as, “You look nice today.” Get very specific and instead say, “That’s a beautiful watch you’re wearing.”
Effective compliments are specific, and contain an adjective. Incorporate words like fantastic, beautiful, interesting, fascinating, gorgeous, impressive or striking. You want your compliment to be something this person has never heard before.
Don’t be afraid of sounding over the top as long as you’re being genuine.
THE QUESTION STYLE
Men love to be helpful. If you want to flirt with a man, a great technique is to ask him a question, or for his opinion. You can open communication by asking for his knowledge or advice. He feels useful, which men like, and now the interaction has purpose. It isn’t just casual small talk.
Once you acquire the information you’ve asked for pause a moment to let him continue the interaction. Don’t appear to be in a rush, and give him the opportunity to flirt back.
THE FAVOR STYLE
Famed dating expert, Matthew Hussey, speaks often of this technique when it comes to effective flirting. If you see a man that you’re interested in ask him for a favor. Studies have shown that people will like you more once they’ve done something for you.
The simple phrase, “Can you help me with something,” will pique any man’s interest. Next, follow up with a minor request such as holding your jacket, watching your seat or helping you carry your coffee to the fixing station. Not only will this man feel helpful, you can express gratitude by buying his coffee or a round of drinks. You can tell him that you owe him one, and make arrangements to see each other again.
THE SARCASTIC TECHNIQUE
Sarcasm and insults might be annoying flirting techniques for women but it’s actually a great way to exercise your guy speak. Men and women communicate differently. Men are constantly giving each other a hard time and making slight disses between their friends. When a woman joins in on the joking, she displays her playful and masculine side, which is attractive to men.
Knowing how to use guy speak from time to time is a useful technique for setting yourself apart from other women. Use a sarcastic phrase such as, “There’s no way you can be good looking and smart, which is it?”
This will catch him off guard and certainly make him smile.
THE DIRECT APPROACH
If you’re comfortable with flirting then the direct approach is a great way to show you’re confident and assertive. This shouldn’t be confused as picking up a guy. Flirting is a way to get a guy’s attention and show him that it’s ok to ask you out. Flirting lets a guy know that you’re interested. Being direct works because it’s a rare treat for men to be approached this way.
Even if the man walks up to you, to say hello, it doesn’t hurt to look him up and down and then say, “You’re hot.” Being bold also sets you apart from other way, and this flirting technique allows you to be aggressive in a classy way. The purpose of flirting is to open the way for communication. Men aren’t always comfortable speaking to women, so make it easy for them by starting the conversation.
If a man is interested he’ll take the lead and you’ll be happy you took the initiative to make the first move.