4 Tips To Reduce Heartbreak After A Breakup

What’s the worst feeling in the world?

Some would say loneliness. Some would say grief. Some would say depression.

Unfortunately, when you breakup with someone, you experience all these emotions very intensely. The feeling can be hard to control, and you may wonder how to make it go away for good.

In this post, the good news is that we’ll outline ways you can begin to feel normal again.

4 Trips to Reduce Heartbreak

Remember that with any grief process, time is a significant ingredient. Although you can do everything on this list, sometimes you need to give the situation a few days or weeks to subside. To speed it up, though, you can try these suggestions.

#1 Feel Your Feelings

Yep, it’s the tip you probably don’t want to hear, but it’s likely the most important one. If you try to shove your feelings down, they’ll eventually come back up. Whether it manifests as anger, depression, future relationship issues, or pure bitterness about dating—it just doesn’t go away.

Take some time to be sad and feel your grief. If you need, take a sick day and cry. Binge movies and cuddle up on the couch. Recall the good times and let your mind go down that rabbit hole. Journal about the relationship. Talk about it with friends. It will feel bad, but it will feel a lot worse if you don’t “mind dump” these emotions. Give yourself a few days or a week to handle the most intense feelings, and then make a promise to yourself to begin to move forward.

#2 Get Distracted

After you’ve felt your feelings, it can still be hard to stop thinking about your ex and being upset over the breakup. To try to bring life back to normal, keep busy. Give yourself to your work, a side hustle, a new workout regime, or a new hobby. 

It’s also a good idea to be socially distracted too. Call up friends, meet new ones, go for lots of walks with your dog, text random people, reconnect with family, etc.

#3 Think of The Bad Things

There’s probably a lot of good things about your ex, or else you wouldn’t have been with them in the first place. After you breakup, it can be easy for these positive traits to seep into the forefront. However, that’s not the reality. You broke up for a reason, so the relationship wasn’t as rose-colored as you’re making it out to be during heartbreak.

Balance out your positive view of your ex to reflect reality. To do this, it can help to make a list of all their negative traits. Think about the things you’re happy you’ll never need to deal with again. For example, maybe they ate loudly, and now you never need to hear it again. Or maybe their temper was too intense, and now you can live life without being on an emotional roller coaster. Think of as many things as you can. Whenever you’re missing your ex, pull out the list and read every point. Then remind yourself that you now are set free and have the opportunity to meet someone who doesn’t have these negative points.

#4 Brainstorm Breakup Motivation Benefits

Breakups suck, especially if you really liked the person. But you’d be lying to yourself if you said there was nothing positive that came out of it. Similar to the suggestion above, make a list of the positive things that are coming or will come from the breakup. We’ll give you a few examples:

  • You don’t have to wait for them to change their bad behavior anymore
  • You have the freedom to create a new routine
  • You can think of it as a new beginning
  • No more arguing 
  • You get to pick the TV shows/movies now
  • You have the opportunity to meet a better-suited partner

Reasons for breakup motivation aren’t always obvious, but they’re there if you look for them. Forcing yourself to be positive doesn’t usually work. But balancing out a horrible breakup with some positive points can help you move forward.

Summary on Reducing Heartbreak Pain

There’s no sure-fire way to get rid of heartbreak pain automatically. However, there are some things you can try that will likely minimize the feeling and help you move forward. After feeling your grief, you can try new hobbies to distract yourself and keep busy. Balance out your ex’s emotions by thinking of their bad qualities and brainstorming reasons for breakup motivation.

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