Are you looking for some practical ways to spice up your romantic dates?
Maybe you want to improve your relationship with your girlfriend, or, perhaps, you simply need to make a good impression with a new potential partner. Back then, I tried to do this by merely dressing well. However, one day realized that apart from cool looks, I needed to put more things on the table with the girls I liked.
And by that, I don’t mean serving them a delicious, excellent Italian dish, like the one my grandma would cook for my invitees, but giving women polyhedric experiences. Whatever motivates you, unless you learn how to make your dates more enticing, most girls will reject you like a lasagna dish served as cold as an ice tea.
However, what if you could surprise women with unique attraction skills?
That’s what you’ll learn with this article, even if you aren’t very experienced with the opposite sex. After all, if I was a disaster with women and if I learned to attract them consistently, you’ll be able to do the same.
Adapt to Your Culture to Win
Before revealing you the three tips that will improve your romantic dates, there’s something you need to know about women. It’s generally said that females have a different brain structure than males from a biological perspective. Even if this theory has been proven wrong, we can see that there are some things and behaviors that women generally like most.
However, to see where those behaviors come from, we need to look into cultural themes shaping us. It’s usually culture that determines how men and women should behave. That will be our starting point to provide the girls you like with what they want.
The tips I’m about to give you will usually work on most developed cultures worldwide.
However, if you feel that, for any reason, they don’t apply to where you live, feel free to adapt them to your environment.
I Was A Failure With Women
I remember the first times I tried to attract girls when I was just a teenager. People said I looked like the insecure version of Brad Pitt, only without the beard. However attractive I looked, that didn’t help me attract the girls I wanted. That’s when I realized that there must have been something beyond looks to be successful with the opposite sex.
I still remember my first real date with a girl. Her name was Mariella, and I had met her at a school party. I really liked her and, after some sweaty hours of “seduction work,” I had convinced her to go to dinner with me.
Spoiler Alert: It was a complete failure.
In fact, at the Italian pizzeria where I brought her, I felt like a fish out of water. I didn’t know what to do with my hands, speak with my mouth, and look with my eyes.
Have you ever had the feeling that you’re totally at the mercy of your fears and instinctive body? That’s how I felt during that moment. Eventually, Mariella didn’t want to hang out with me anymore, and I was super pissed-off by that.
Embarking Into Personal Growth
However, that’s what pushed me to embark on a personal development journey to defeat my awkwardness with girls once forever.
Long back, I thought that women thought the same things as us men. That simple assumption made me commit many mistakes. However, as soon as I began studying female psychology, things changed. That’s when I began applying the tips I’m about to share with you. They helped me get from a hopeless man with no success with girls to become a magnet for women.
How can you get the same results with the opposite sex? Let’s find it out below.
Tip #1: Be Mysterious
One of the most important things to realize about women is that they are generally intrigued by mysteries.
You can see this by the type of content they consume, for instance, romantic novels with twisted plots, secrets, and love affairs to be discovered.
The fact that they need to unravel something makes them so eager to get to the end of the story that they’ll do almost anything to solve the riddle. The next time you go on a romantic date, don’t reveal too much about yourself. Instead, leave her some space to figure out who you are in small increments.
That will be much more fun for her and effective from your side.
Think about it. Your first date with a girl should be aimed at getting her to want a second one with you. That’s why you’d be better off at talking about interesting topics and avoiding unnecessary ones. This will prepare the ground for an exciting phone game. That way, you’ll have something interesting to talk about over text when the date will be over.
You can’t imagine how many times I got girls uninterested in me just because I revealed too many details about my life on the first date.
However, if you can tell just enough about yourself but not too much to make her bored, you’ll get into the sweet spot where you can maximize your attractiveness towards her.
Tip #2: Tease Her
Another way to make things spicier during your romantic dates is by teasing the woman. Apart from doing this in person, it would be best to start the tease before the meeting by texting her.
That’s when you’ll prepare her psychologically for what she’s about to experience.
I personally like to tease girls by poking them, playing fun games like “never have I ever,” or by doing things involving touch. That way, you’ll make her release oxytocin, essential to create a stronger bond and intimate connection.
Many men are afraid of touching girls they like. However, there will come the point when you need to do this if you want to build intimacy. That’s why I strongly suggest you play games involving touch with her. Hand reading could be one of those.
Tip #3: Share Fun Stories
Finally, sharing personal stories is one of the best ways to spice things up with your romantic date.
It has been scientifically proven that storytelling is a wonderful way to create strong bonds between people, even if they’re complete strangers. That’s why it’s widely used in business & marketing.
If you share interesting stories about your life with the girls you like, you’ll both spark curiosity in them and also build rapport. That will make them want to share their stories with you. This way you’ll get to know each other well enough to bring things further. If you think about it, sharing stories spontaneously happens between people who know themselves well enough. For example, long-time friends or intimate partners.
That will be the same feeling you’ll be able to give her if you share something interesting about yourself.
Spicing things up with women is not that hard to do if you know the tricks. This will put you ahead of the competition that usually doesn’t know how to engage females’ minds. Moreover, it can be a great way to get to the mood more smoothly and effectively.
Now you know how to spice things up with the girls you like. Good luck with your romantic dates, and remember to keep them fun!
Sal Damiata is an Integral Relationships Consultant for Ambitious Men. He’s a Certified Coach & MSc Graduate helping professionals and entrepreneurs attract their ideal partner. His programs focus on building inner confidence and equipping the student with a set of techniques to maximize his success with women of most kinds.