In this post Erin Tillman shares key questions that you should ask yourself before taking things to the next level sexually with your partner.
Transcript
OK so how do you know if you’re ready to be physically intimate with a new partner?
There’s not enough time in this two minute dating clip but there’s a few things that you can ask yourself a few questions you can ask yourself. Do you feel emotionally and physically safe with somebody? Do you have some level of trust for your potential intimate partner? Does this person respect your boundaries? um do they know what your boundaries are? are they respectful of your boundaries? Have you ever felt in danger emotionally or physically by this person? Is this person open to hearing your likes and dislikes sexually, and even not sexually?
So a lot of these questions I’m asking are important to ask in a nonsexual context. So when you’re hanging out platonically with someone new but you’re dating, are there respectfully you outside of the bedroom is the point. You know are they listening to you.
- Do they listen to you?
- Are they really listening to what you like and don’t like?
So these are really great questions to ask when getting intimate with someone before you get intimate with them and actually they’re great questions to ask throughout the intimacy with someone ’cause that can shift. you know maybe someone was present with you at one point and then at some point they’ve shifted and they aren’t anymore. you can make a new choice you can make a new decision.
Those are some basic questions that are good to ask yourself at the beginning of an intimate relationship and throughout the intimacy of a relationship. So just keep asking those questions and then you know keep staying safe, but keep having fun too. Alright more dating tips to come.
About Erin Tillman
The Dating Advice Girl, Erin Tillman, is an inclusive Dating Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and TV/Radio/Podcast Host based in Los Angeles, California. In 2018, Erin was awarded the Gender Equity Award presented by the California National Organization For Women (NOW).