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Stop Rewarding Bad Behavior Learn To Set Boundaries Now

Stop Rewarding Bad Behavior Learn To Set Boundaries Now

Women constantly complain about why the men that they’re dating aren’t willing to put in the right amount of effort. He never calls only texts, never wants to leave the house, never wants to go on a real date or is simply unromantic and aloof. What women don’t realize is the man is putting in effort, as much as he sees necessary for what he wants. I always say if he ain’t tryin’ he ain’t lyin.

If a man isn’t putting in work he probably isn’t that into you. Women have to put their foot down and set boundaries. The only way you can get what you want from a man is for him to know what you want in the first place.

How do you do that? How do you get a man to do for you what you think you deserve. Call instead of text, make plans instead of showing up at the last minute- respect you and your time, etc. It’s easier than you think and it has to start the minute that you meet. The last thing you can think about is how much you want to have his babies and how you can’t wait to meet his family.

Women put up with bullsh*t behavior for one reason: they’re desperate. When you start dating a man he gets his chance to show you what he’s about. Give him the chance to prove to you that he is a good dude.

Don’t just put faith into him because you had a little bit of chemistry. Setting boundaries isn’t always easy for some women but it starts with one simple concept: Reward good behavior and don’t reward bad behavior. When a man does the right thing, its important to be expressively grateful. Say ‘thank you’. Tell him, ‘You’re such a gentleman’. You can even try ‘That’s so nice of you’

Trust me, a man will gladly take the acclaim. Sometimes women take for granted that men don’t need or want praise for what they know they are supposed to. It’s fine if you think a man should pay for dinner, open car doors or show up on time (or at all) but no man has to do any of those things. Women sometimes assume that if they show gratitude it makes it seem that they’ve never been treated that way before.

I feel the better you are treated the easier and more natural it is to appreciate kindness. When a man behaves as you expect a man should, give him a little praise. Even if you would never accept anything less men feel good when a woman notices the value of their consideration. But there is a flip side. In my opinion there is only one-way of dealing with poor behavior: don’t. If a man wants to run his game to get you into bed, that’s fine but you don’t have to entertain it.


Never make the mistake of thinking “We’ll do what he wants this time, then next time he’ll take me to dinner,” false. Unless, this man is running some new form of playerism that is unknown to female intuition, your instincts will tell you if he’s about dinner and a nice, respectable date or if this man is about sex. He can be about sex, that’s his right.


Choose for yourself whose needs are more important, his or yours. Never feel bad for putting yourself first, you’re not in a relationship. When you make yourself a priority either the man will fall in line or disappear. The ability to put your foot down and say, “No, that’s not cool,” is the tool that both single men and women lack. They set their boundaries too late in the relationship allowing the other person to dominate them.


Dating is a lot like driving; there can only be one driver. Just because you’re not behind the wheel, doesn’t mean you can’t tell them where to go. You might really like this man or think he feels the same about you but if your needs aren’t being met, what does it matter? Why would you bend over backwards to keep someone who isn’t interested in your needs in the first place?

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