If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today. ~E. Joseph Cossman
Confidence is the sexiest quality any man or woman can possess. When you are confident, you stand out. Your body language is strong, your eye contact is positive, your energy is up and you just radiate. You come across as attractive and you attract high quality dates to you.
It’s a wonder why everyone isn’t confident knowing how awesome it makes you look to the opposite sex.
Confidence, like other great qualities, is a habit. It’s what you repeatedly do, over and over, that makes you appear confident. Let’s say you’re driving home from work. Obviously, you feel like you know where you’re going. The difference between confident people and everyone else is that when they get lost or they don’t know where they’re going, they don’t panic and they don’t worry. Why do these people feel so assured? They know that whatever happens, they can handle it.
If you want to build confidence, you have to stop the worry and panic.
When we are interacting with potential dates, many single people worry. Are they embarrassing themselves, does this person like them, can they tell I’m nervous, can they see me sweating and I could go on.
Worry and panic are two traits that confident just don’t have. These feelings are anticipation of future events that are out of your control. You could be worried about what other people are thinking about you and you can panic when you feel you’ve done something wrong or your in danger of losing the relationship.
I’m telling you now you need to stop.
Dating isn’t life or death it’s actually only about life. Humans interact as a screening process for procreation. You are simply screening for future partners to continue the human species with. What’s so hard about that? To banish worry, you have to think positive.
You have to ask yourself, “What am I worried about?”
A lot of singles worry that if they face rejection it will feel awful; they will lose their spirit. Others panic because one potential date doesn’t like them, it might be a very long time before they meet someone else they like, pickings are slim. All of these thoughts are simply your imagination. There is no basis to this line of reasoning. When you worry in dating, you’re admitting that you have an inferior product than someone else. You are worried about your own value, qualities and self-worth.
When you worry you’re giving away your power. You are putting the outcome in another person’s hands other than your own. How you stop worrying is simple. We all get nervous. You have the choice to fight through the nerves and do what you were going to do anyway; get this person’s number, ask them to dance or try to sleep with.
You also have the choice to walk away. If you feel that you are so nervous that you can’t be yourself, then keep it moving.
If you’re approached by a potential date, don’t panic. Tell yourself that you know what to do.
Worry comes when you don’t know what is going to happen next or you feel like you don’t know what you’ll do if the worst does happen.
This is what you will do, as the confident person you are, you’ll deal with it and well. Don’t panic and then worry. In dating, you should always feel secure that what will happen is what you fully intended to happen.
If you really want to abolish worry from your dating life, and hopefully your life in general, simply understand that your thoughts create things. Your imagination and perception color every situation. If you are worried reframe the situation. Instead of anticipation what could go wrong take a deep breath and stay in the moment.
Don’t give yourself permission to worry. Accept, once and for all that you are right, what you are doing is right and everything will work out as it is supposed to; the right way. Worry and panic can’t change what will happen it can only make the waiting and anticipating miserable. Learn to stay calm and trust yourself.
You know what to do and you can handle what happens next. I hope this was helpful.