What makes some people more attractive than others? Have you ever wondered why him or why her? And not you? It might seem like luck or maybe looks.
You might have assumed that other people just have something you don’t -which is why they have a relationship and you don’t.
The truth is, there are particular qualities that can make you more attractive. If you are able to display these 3 basic traits you will come across as not only more attractive but highly desired.
POSITIVITY
Nothing is sexier than a positive attitude. It’s an often overlooked quality because its so widely accepted to complain. Remember the last time you found yourself attracted to someone who had a big smile on their face? Don’t you find yourself naturally attracted to people who seem genuinely happy and makes others feel happy too? Doesn’t it feel good being around someone full of compliments and positivity? It sure does.
If you can become the person who goes out of their way to be upbeat and positive about any situation more people will want you around. We are all searching for those who make us feel better about ourselves and our lives. If you’re insecure it can be difficult to act with a good attitude. You might be used to sharing your tales of woe and you might be accustomed to always starting with whats wrong instead of what’s right.
Even if you’re out of practice when it comes to positivity the secret is this: never finish a negative statement.
When you find yourself about to complain or say something negative, stop. Make it a point to keep your statements optimistic.
Don’t put yourself down, don’t make fun of yourself and most of all don’t give yourself a hard time. If you want to seem like a positive person, be one to yourself first. How you treat yourself is how other people will treat you.
HONESTY
Are you being honest with yourself about who you are and what you want? Are you representing yourself accurately? What areas of your life could use a little more honesty?
Being honest isn’t just about avoiding a lie. It also means sending the right message about who you are and how you feel. Don’t say ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’. Don’t do anything that feels uncomfortable. Don’t pretend to be something that you’re not. Don’t pretend to like things that you don’t like. Not if it means being in authentic.
Don’t fall into the trap of trying to put on a front to impress others. If you have to be someone else because you think that persona is better than who you truly are then you’re not being honest. Take a moment to evaluate how you can be more authentic in your relationships and when you share yourself with others, make it the real you.
HUMOR
If you can get someone to laugh you can get them to do almost anything. Humor is the easiest way to add value to an engagement. It feels good to laugh and it shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously. There is a time and place to be serious and a time to be funny. Unfortunately, we believe that we must be serious in order to be taken seriously and that’s just not true.
Humor engages others, it lightens the mood and it can build great rapport. The ability to make others laugh also means putting them at ease around you which makes you more attractive. Find as many ways as you can to inject humor and you will build more attraction and a deeper connection with potential dates.
Now you don’t have to wonder what they have and you don’t. Find a way to brush up on these skills and you’ll have an easier time attracting the right people. I hope this was helpful.