Love is blind ….and so very teary.
It’s when you experience a break up that reality dawns on you that the dating game and all its love is over. Is there life after a break up? Can the wound heal? Will I ever love again? And because love is emotional, we tend to feel a sense of loss and betrayal that blur our ability to see beyond the heartbreak.
Let’s take a journey and bounce back with passion to love again.
NUGGET # 1 LOVE YOUR SINGLE SELF ALL OVER AGAIN
There are things you haven’t done for all the while you were doing before dating yet they define who you are. Write them down in an effort to retrace your steps. Then, find time and engage in that stimulating activity, whatever it is. For instance, if you loved baking, you can actually fix to do some baking again, the same as before your relationship. Revisit a time when you used to do what you loved.
NUGGET # 2 ACCEPT THE PAIN
As much as you may want to wish away the pain or drown it in engaging activities, the truth is that it will hurt and the hurt won’t go away, possibly at the click of a button.
Let out a yell, punch your pillow, cry-out your heart to let out the pain. However, it is important to know that you should set boundaries to express your pain. A great way to avoid going overboard is speaking to yourself and writing down what you feel in a journal. You will realize that you need to release a substantial amount of pain when you jot it down on paper.
NUGGET # 3 CUT LINK WITH YOUR EX
After the break up, the memories of the exciting times you had with your date will keep replaying in your mind. Delete the chats, messages and emails you had exchanged. You should pull down photos from social media, removing any reminders of them. Doing this helps you refocus on other things and not your obvious painful past.
It is advisable to stay out of the active social media because it can rekindle the feelings you so wish to forget.
NUGGET # 4 REFOCUS
You need to find yourself all over again.
Make fresh resolutions for you to regain your vitality and build yourself again. Write down your social, spiritual, career and financial goals. Go out and treat yourself as a way to start a new chapter. Your relationship may be water under the bridge but your life didn’t go down the drain. Believe in yourself and in your ability to bounce back.
NUGGET #5 DOCUMENT THE LESSONS LEARNT
Take with you lessons you have learnt from your break up.
There are positive aspects you learnt and can do you good in the next relationship, do not drown them in the tears. Instead, promise to use them to develop your attributes. The mistakes you did or allowed yourself to embrace for the sake of your date should be noted so that you do not repeat them in future relationships. With these power nuggets you are sure to love and be loved all over again.