Are You Too Busy for Love?
“I’d like to date more but finding the time to meet people is just too hard.”
Does this statement sound like something you’d say to yourself or maybe a friend?
If so, you’re like the millions of people who turn to online dating for the convenience and ease of finding a partner. While the process might take up an hour or so of your time, you’ve made yourself available 24hrs a day, which can better your chances of finding love.
If you tell yourself, or others, that you’re too busy to meet people, date or to have a relationship, I hate to break it to you but you’re lying.
You’re actually not too busy, you’re just in denial.
Too busy, is an excuse people use when they haven’t had pleasurable experiences in dating. Either they’ve been disappointed by their date or faced rejection, who would make time for that if they didn’t have to.
No one is too busy for a meaningful relationship because pleasure is an escape that all humans need.
Whether you derive it from food, or a hobby, all of us seek it and make time for it in our daily lives. The difference is, instead of sneaking a few minutes to have that chocolate bar after the gym, you could’ve been texting with a lover and felt equally satisfied.
When you develop a positive view of partnership it’s easier to make a time and place for it in your life.
If you believe that having someone to share happy and sad moments with is valuable, you are NEVER too busy to date.
You must ACCEPT and KNOW that joy comes with the relationship.
As much as I advocate dating, you don’t have to date traditionally to find a great partner.
You can attract people into your life while going about your day. You can meet potential dates everywhere you are already. By being aware of the attractive and positive people around you, you can make connections that will bring potential dates into your life without having to go out of your way.
Smile more, compliment strangers, and verbally thank those around you who hold the door, ring up your purchase or deliver your packages. Make eye contact consistently and when people speak to you, hold your head up and speak back. Invite interested people to do what interests you. If your life is filled with world-changing work I don’t encourage taking a break if you feel that you can’t but most people are not curing diseases.
Most people work a job; possibly more than one then fill the rest of their days with a diversion or television. It isn’t uncommon that singles spend more time at the gym than going on dates.
If you view dating as having to share yourself with someone else, you might be too exhausted at the end of your week to do so but if you view dating as enjoying a new experience while getting to know someone else, it’s well worth making time for.
If you could adopt the idea that you’re a wonderful person whose perfect match is making their way to you, why wouldn’t you make time to date? To find them?
Think of a date as a prospect for friendship, or to try something new. Make dating a new hobby and you’ll be amazed how little time it actually takes to date.
Thoughts?