I think it was in a Deepak Chopra book where I read the statement, ‘have no point to prove’. I’ve been living that mantra ever since.
Whether it’s in conversation, in the way that I dress, or how I choose my behavior I repeat to myself, ‘have no point to prove’. I don’t get defensive. I don’t have to be right. I have no point to prove to myself or anyone else.
This doesn’t mean that I’m perfect but I’m content. I don’t need consent or validation from people around me.
And the truth is, people want to be right in arguments because they think that means they’re smart. It proves they know what they’re talking about, and that they have credibility.
But credibility doesn’t make someone attracted to you. It doesn’t make you sexy. Being right doesn’t make you interesting. Bragging is another way we can try to make or prove our points but that doesn’t help in dating success.
The key to successful dating is to let go of the idea that you have a point to prove.
It’s an opinion that I stand by. Tell yourself that you have nothing to prove. You don’t have to go out and convince the world that you are a wonderful person. You don’t have to declare that you’re self-assured. You either are or you aren’t.
Perpetrating a quality that you don’t possess is like holding an umbrella and telling people that it’s raining.
I want you to adopt this mantra as I have and let yourself off of the hook. You don’t have to be right, you don’t have to be important, you don’t have to be the most desired human being on the planet. Have no point to prove.
People will figure you out on their own once you spend your time being a representation of who you are instead of a misrepresentation of who you’re not. Honesty is a good place to start.
Do you find yourself needing others to prove their affection to you? Are you constantly searching for evidence to support not only what you believe about others but about yourself?
Stop.
I want you to believe in dating things either are or they aren’t. Either you feel good about yourself or you don’t. You can’t just feel good on the days your boo piece is returning your calls and bad on the days you can’t get a hold of them.
You either enjoy your dating life or you don’t. Stop putting on a happy face for the public then crying into a bowl of popcorn as you watch ‘The Notebook’ for the seventh time.
I’m not saying be miserable if you’re miserable. I’m simply saying, don’t feel like you have to prove life is a dream if you think it could use improvement. If you date trying to prove that you are the best thing since sliced bread, instead of expressing who you are and what you desire then you’re selling yourself short.
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. If you don’t know something, or you aren’t something, or you lack something embrace it. You’re not perfect, that jig is already up, because no one is. That doesn’t mean that you are you isn’t wonderful.