Making a man feel bad should be the least of your concerns. Women over time have been conditioned to think of others feelings. This isn’t a bad thing. When it comes to the highroad, it’s completely littered with women. It’s the parkway that you take because you’re not sure where the other roads will take you.
In my experience I have mad decisions based on not wanting others to feel bad despite feeling pretty lousy myself. I learned the hard way that in very few instances do both parties end up unhappy. Someone always gets what they want and if it isn’t you it’s the proverbial “them”. Unlike most women, or people, I’m not opposed to lying. I’m not opposed to being unpopular or a bitch. I’m not opposed to any acts that allow me to do what I want to do.
Making dating decisions because you don’t want the man to feel bad is dumb. Men will feel bad if they are rejected, blamed, scolded, or reproached. It’s not your responsibility to go out of your way to protect a man’s feelings. (Or his ego)
Men appreciate a no, when it’s an honest no. There is always a politically correct way to handle everything but sometimes you just have to be blunt. There are times when you shouldn’t be concerned in the least about a man’s feelings. You should put yourself first.
Don’t Accept Dates With Men You Don’t Like
You’re wasting your time and their time.
No one wants to face rejection, but they don’t want false hope either. In my opinion it’s better to reject someone once you know that you don’t like them than to string them along. We like to think that we would want to be “given a chance” if the situation were reversed but would you really? Would you really want to go on one date with someone who knew they had no desire to go out with you again? Or no desire for you in general?
It isn’t as easy as saying no to an invitation either. You must also spare a man’s feelings when it comes to his ego right? You must fake finding him sexually attractive or he’ll feel devastated. Not true, that moment might seem difficult but you’ll get over it as will he.
No feeling lasts forever, that’s the beauty and the rub.
Don’t Touch Anyone Who Doesn’t Turn You On
I made the mistake of kissing a man who I had a crush on. I should’ve left well enough alone because kissing progressed to other activities and I had to pretend that with his clothes off, he was sexy.
He wasn’t. I pretended. I learned my lesson then that if you pretend once you can’t stop. He was more devastated once I said enough because he was under the impression that I liked what we were doing. I didn’t enjoy it; I didn’t want him to feel bad so of course I put on the charade.
Big mistake.
I know it’s hard for men to understand how you can like spending time with them but not feel physically attracted to them. Also, they’re confused to why they feel such chemistry and you don’t. It sucks. You shouldn’t entertain it.
A lie is a lie is a lie. If you don’t feel into him, don’t pretend to. You’re doing a man no favors by pretending you are. If he has a small penis or a soft body, you can’t act like he doesn’t know it. You’d be ruining it for every other woman. “Well the last girl I dated said I was good in bed,” you’ll hear men retort. Well the bitch lied, now you have to pick up the pieces.
Don’t Force A Relationship to Satisfy Your Ego
If you want me to do anything just tell me that I can’t. I’m a sucker just like everyone else for reverse psychology. Women have a great way of wanting a man before they know that they want him.
Whatever you do, however you can help it, don’t fall into this trap.
I dated my ex because he somehow challenged me. He made me feel like he wasn’t that into or he was totally into me but I was somehow the aggressor. I would make jokes when we first met that I could easily have him if I wanted and he would play to that dare with exact timing. I didn’t want him per se but I wanted someone who was even more attainable so he would have to do. I should have realized that I wasn’t into it; I was being sold on a challenge.
Women hate to lose. We are just as ego sensitive as men sometimes but it’s a trap that you have to avoid. If a man says, you can’t have me, believe him. Walk away.
Don’t miss out on all the great men that you can have for the ones who play hard to get.
My only tactic is to take a moment and think of all the times that I have been rejected. Sure, it hurt but now I’m over it and the guy you’re dating or not dating will get over it too. At my age, lots of former suitors are married and all I had to do was get out of their way so another partner, more compatible, could find them.
Rejection doesn’t make you heartless, it just makes you honest.