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5 Techniques to Spice Up Your Sex Life

5 Techniques to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Are you looking for ways for you and your partner to ‘spice up’ your bedroom time? Getting intimate under the sheets might be a relatively normal practice for several couples. But it doesn’t mean you can add a little ‘flavor’ to your bedroom romance.

Here are five tips to help you spice things up with your partner in the bedroom.

1. Communication is Vital

Hot and steamy events in the bedroom might turn cold if you’re not careful. Therefore, you should discuss your ‘Do’s and Don’ts’ with your partner before doing the deed.

Remember, proper communication is always essential to practically any relationship. Talking with your partner about your likes and dislikes in the relationship is crucial, especially if you’re looking for more than a one-night stand.

For example, you may talk about your kinks, and you might discover that both parties are into cuckolding. If so, you can search for available bedroom partners in communities like cuckin.com.

Additionally, you may state the things that you don’t want happening in bed. For instance, you may not be into fellatio or going in from behind. Your partner should respect your likes and dislikes before, during, and after intercourse. Otherwise, it might be a long night without getting ‘any.’

2. Change the Scenery

The bed isn’t the only place in the bedroom that you can do the dirty. Humping the night away while you and your partner are on the bed still offers a lot of perks. But consider other locations in the room if you want to spice it up.

For example, you can try using a chair. At first, this new practice might sound exciting. However, the thought of cleaning sweat and other fluids off of fancy chairs might not excite you. This idea might even kill the mood for the night. Instead, you may also try the floor. It might get uncomfortable, but it might be a unique way to spend the night with your partner, particularly if you already find the bed boring.

Another example is by the window or wall. But, be wary as your neighbors might take a peek at you and your partner doing the nasty. If exhibitionism isn’t your kink, you may have to stay away from the window during intercourse.

If you’re going to ‘vigorously love’ your partner against the wall, you might want to consider if other people in the household are around to hear your adult activities. Furthermore, having intercourse while standing might not be ideal for some people since this position will have you working your quad muscles quite strenuously. Thus, consider sticking to other less demanding positions if you find standing to be too much for you or your partner to handle.

3. Maintain Eye Contact

Sometimes all it takes to spice things up in the bedroom is the seemingly simple act of maintaining eye contact. This action may help enhance mood during intercourse. Some married couples might even say that it may enhance their marriage.

Maintaining eye contact during sex can say a lot about a person. It shows an ideal level of trust between partners since you’re present in both body and mind. Other people might think that losing eye contact during intercourse means that the individual is thinking about something (or someone) else.

However, this act might play differently for other individuals. Some people might think that maintaining eye contact for extended periods is creepy. Hence, if you want to look at your partner while you’re ‘doing’ them, don’t look at them with big, beady eyes.

Instead, try to aim for a sexy look. Glance at your partner frequently, but try not to stick your eyesight on them for the entire night. Also, keep in mind that staring at your partner while having sex may make you look like a serial killer, or signal that you’re nervous.

4. Don’t Skip the Foreplay

Romance in some movies tends to portray sex as being wild from the start. Clothes come flying off bodies, and bodies start rubbing within the first few minutes of doing the deed. However, don’t skip the foreplay if you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom and head into a long-term intimate relationship.

Foreplay can begin differently for many people. Some couples like to start with a little flirting and some sensual body language. Others might want to start with lengthy yet passionate kissing.

This prelude to sex may also help prepare the mood for the upcoming deed. Remember, lubrication is a vital element during intercourse, and you can create that wetness with the help of foreplay. Otherwise, it’s going to feel like rubbing your dry finger against a waterless surface.

If your partner is giving you the go signal to touch other parts of their body, perhaps it’s the right time to start fondling their erogenous zones. These areas may include the nipples and the back of the neck. The key here is to search for sensitive yet stimulating nerve endings around your partner’s body.

Move your hands around, and don’t be shy where they lead you. But, pay attention to your partner’s reactions. If you hear a sudden ‘ooh’ or your partner’s mouth suddenly tries to gasp for air, you might have hit the right spot.

Note that foreplay might last between a few to several minutes. It depends on different factors for different people. But, stay on course, and you should know when you can continue with spicier events for the night.

5. Use Toys

Some people think that sex toys are only for self-stimulation. However, you may use certain objects to help take your sex life to the next level.

Dildos, vibrators, handcuffs, and ball gags are among the many adult toys you can bring to the bedroom. Again, ask your partner if they agree to this setup to avoid killing the mood.

Final Words

Some couples might find sex boring if it’s going to look like a routine rather than an exciting event. However, you can spice things up in the bedroom with the tips mentioned in this article. Remember to communicate with your partner, and you might be banging the nights away until you both pass out.

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