My new obsession is the BBC show ‘Luther’ starring my old obsession Idris Elba. He’s tall, handsome, distinguished, and intelligent and that British accent is just as sexy as it wants to be. Do I expect to run into an Idris Elba look-alike anytime soon? No. But could I see myself dating that ‘type’ of man, of course. Meeting the people we can imagine ourselves dating treating us the way we want to be treated is a rare thing in dating. It’s happened to me a few times but I can’t say I was smart enough to take advantage of...
Stop Overcompensating To Hide Your Flaws
I’m not perfect. I know that isn’t news but I sometimes I like to state it, so others know that I know I’m not perfect. I don’t pretend to be perfect or flawless, well at least not anymore. I talk too much. I’m stubborn and argumentative. I’m always telling people what to do, just to name a few flaws. I am far from perfect. Over the years I’ve learned that my imperfections don’t harm my dating life. Many singles are afraid to let other’s see their imperfections but I’ve learned that what you think is wrong with you is hardly...
How To Date By Your Own Rules
In dating, most people feel bound by rules. Instead of doing what they really want, or pursuing their own agenda, they do what they feel they should. They compromise their behaviors to be liked, instead of being honest. These kinds of singles are typically deemed “nice” and are rarely successful. In life we make choices. In dating we tend to make choices that jeopardize our happiness because we want the person that we’re making the choices for to like us. If you aren’t clear WHY you’re making the choices that you’re making, it will never truly feel like a choice. Like...
How Your Choices are Sabotaging Your Dating Success
Dr. Phil has a quote, “When we choose the behavior, we choose the results. In order to have differently, we have to do differently.” Often singles set out to prove that their way of dating is right and that everyone else is f*cked up. For example, when I posted a video about ‘nice guys’, I got several comments from men in protest. Many insisted that women were the problem, and that ‘nice guys’ were right to be how they were. Men and women who are struggling to see results in dating, often argue for limitations. Claiming that if the circumstances...