So you’ve been single for months, maybe years, and you are starting to wonder… “Will I ever find love?”
Sure, there are days where you don’t really think about it… days when being single doesn’t bother you much. But other days – it really bothers you. Like whenever you watch a sappy romantic drama or when you see a perfectly happy couple being madly in love– that is when that burning feeling comes over you. You feel it deep in the pit of your stomach and sometimes it is so intense that it makes you want to scream – or burst into tears.
Why can’t you be THAT woman? The one smiling, the one happily in love, the one with the sparkle in her eye. Why is it so easy for her? That is exactly what I want to talk about today with you. Not only why you can be that woman but why you should be that woman.
I want you to restore your faith in men because nothing compares to a healthy, loving, and passionate relationship. Nothing compares to having a man by your side who you respect, admire, and bear your soul to. A man that treats you like a goddess and would do anything to see you happy.
Do You Truly Want A Relationship?
Many women sabotage their own love lives by making mistakes again and again with men. They do not understand how much power they have to create the love that they want for themselves. They give up way too easy and become jaded with men.
The longer you have been single, the more difficult the idea of a serious relationship starts to sound. The hassle of starting over with someone new just doesn’t seem worth it sometimes. Besides, maybe you are comfortable with your life and you like it just as it is – so do you even really need a man? The answer is no. You don’t need a man. But once you realize how amazingly gratifying it feels to be with the RIGHT man, you will want to be with him. More than anything in the world.
Because only with the right man can you experience the power of the yin and yang. Only with the right man can you experience the passionate strength of masculine and feminine polarity. Only when you have your soulmate, your perfect man, by your side, life becomes colourful and you can feel truly alive. You have to remember that being love and being IN LOVE is what you are born for!
The truth is quite simple.
A woman realizes her full potential when she has a man by her side who inspires her with his masculinity and draws out her true feminine nature. And vice versa. Masculine and feminine energies feed off of each other and inspire one another to reach unfathomable new heights.
So whenever the thought crosses your mind that you will be “just fine” without a man – I urge you rethink it. Take that thought and mentally throw it into a well, burn it in a fire, or launch it into space.
Because you deserve more. And deep down you and I both know that you want more. The thing is, if you really want to find love for life – if you are truly committed to it with every ounce of your being, then you will find it. Yes, it is actually that simple. You do not need to know how you will find love, you just have to decide with 100% of your being that you will.
Once you eliminate all excuses that are holding you back, all of the what-ifs, and you make this decision with confidence, everything else will fall into place.
Why?
Because once you turn a hope into a decision, you create the energy which will align the universe to give you what you want. Life makes room for you once you decide that you will achieve something. If that sounds crazy and complex, it really isn’t! This is a basic principle of the law of attraction. It’s science!
A quote that I love by Tony Robbins is “The most important decision of your life is deciding whether you are truly committed to being happy no matter what.”
The bottom line is that it is YOUR decision.
Life is short and you have an entire world of potential inside of you. Go after what you want because you deserve it – and because nobody else will do it for you. Work on becoming the best version of yourself so that you can attract the best man for you- the one that will make you say “the wait was worth it”.
Here is the thing about finding love for life. Love is finding your soulmate by growing into your full potential as a woman, into the High Quality, High Value, feminine Wonder Woman that you are.
Finding love is not as hard as you think.
But Aren’t All Of The Good Ones Already Taken?
If there is one thing that you should take away from this article, it is that you should never feel like you are settling. Ever. Especially for a Low Quality Man that does not deserve you. Despite what you may think, there are great men left out there and not all of the good ones are taken.
Let’s examine you, for a minute. You have a unique combination of qualities that make you special – do you not? You are the only person on this planet who is like you – are you not?
The same goes for men – they each have completely unique personalities, traits, and preferences.
Everyone is absolutely unique and everyone “clicks” better with different people. We are not ALL attracted to the same people and we are not all compatible with the same people. So while the guy you meet will be a poor match for someone else, he will make a perfect match for you! You just have to be able to recognize the RIGHT guy, the one that will be most compatible with YOU.
This is exactly why the idea that “all of the good ones are taken” is bull. It makes no sense.
There is a man out there somewhere who will think that you are absolutely perfect. His personality will easily complement yours. His vision in life will be similar to yours. He will GET you. He will love every inch of you. Things will feel easy with him. He will not lie to you, manipulate you, or try to change you.
Remember that you are perfect just as you are. All that you need to do is know how to get in touch with the authentic, feminine side of yourself and understand how men think.
You should constantly grow into a better version of yourself, yes, and you can learn what it takes to attract more High Quality Men- but you should never over-invest in a man or pretend to be someone that you are not.
There is a perfect man out there who wants to love you, protect you, and cherish you. Go find him! (as soon as you finish this article, of course ;))
There Is Not One Perfect Match For You
Some people believe in soulmates – I don’t. I find this belief to be very limiting. Even the idea that true love comes only once in a lifetime is false. The problem is that women waste too much time with the wrong men.
There are many potential partners out there for you – there is not just ONE person in 7 billion who will magically appear in your life and say “Here I am, your one and only!”. It doesn’t work like that. You can find love for life and create a relationship with MANY people. The key is knowing how to recognize the man that you are most compatible with on all necessary levels. It is about recognizing him and then giving 100% of your mind, body and soul to him once you have chosen each other.
You have probably met a lot of people throughout your lifetime. You know how it goes… some people you get along with better than others, some become lifelong friends, some you find attractive (but that says nothing about your true compatibility), others you just admire and respect, and others you are compatible with on all levels.
So what steps do you need to take?
When it really comes down to it, ANYONE you meet can potentially be¬ the future love of your life. You may not immediately recognize him because it takes some patience and time, but be more open-minded and curious about men.
If you want to find love, you need to interact with more men. Talk to them. Smile at them. Thank them. On the street, in line at Starbucks, on the train – anywhere. Remember that being positive and approachable around men does not automatically mean that you have a sexual or flirtatious intention. Just be more open, kind, and respectful to men in general. Allow them to feel masculine around you. If you do this, you will start attracting men by the dozens and you will feel your own feminine energy multiplying as well.
You Must Be Intentional, Not Intuitive
Your feelings and emotions are an incredible asset to help you connect, but your emotions can also hurt you if you do not know how to use them with men. The problem is that most women rely on their feelings at the wrong time. You cannot rely on your intuition and feelings alone when it comes to men, you have to be deliberate and intentional.
Let me explain.
Intuition is what happens when you go on a couple of dates with a guy, decide that you like him A LOT, and then subsequently invest entirely in your future with him- before he has even shown any significant signs of investment himself. This usually does not lead to a good outcome.
Being intentional, on the other hand, is when you step back and say to yourself ‘he seems like a great guy but I will allow HIM to show signs of mutual interest first. Because I love and value myself. Because I am a High Value woman who deserves love and commitment.’
You must intentionally decide that you will only open yourself up to someone who is worth opening up to – someone who sees your beauty. If you rely solely on your feelings of attraction towards a guy, you may end up getting hurt.
Intention is all about choosing your behaviour when you are around him, rather than being a slave to your emotions. You have to intentionally allow your High Value, feminine energy to shine through – he has to see the right sides of you and that is how you will get him hooked.
The same goes for everything you do in your search for love. Every decision that you make must be intentional – that is how you will ensure that you find your superman.
Love Does Not Just “Happen” To Anyone
You have to understand that there is no such thing as luck when it comes to love. “She” didn’t just get “lucky” with “him” and vice versa. People always attract what they ARE – their energetic equal. There is no other way.
You must abandon the idea that love just happens, that it just works out for some people – no.
Your search for love must be deliberate.
And even once you find love, your relationship will only thrive if you take deliberate action. If you know how to keep it beautiful and full of life, harmony, and joy. Many women spend years and years complaining about being single and waiting for a man to find them, rather than doing something about it.
But life does not work this way.
If you truly want to find the man of your dreams and feel like a desired, beautiful goddess every single day for the rest of your life, you cannot be one of the women who sits on her butt and waits for prince charming to show up on her doorstep. Because those women are ignorant.
I already know that you are everything BUT ignorant because you are already taking action. You are serious about finding true love and becoming the best version of yourself and you should be proud of that. But you have to keep going. There is nothing accidental about a truly happy couple that has it all – love, romance, passion, respect, commitment. They simply have the knowledge that most couples out there don’t have.
Relationships are a luxury because not everyone is willing to put effort into truly understanding relationships…which is mind-boggling because it is the one area in your life that determines your overall happiness above all others! It is worth investing in.
Making the effort means learning what it takes to become a High Quality woman and understanding the psychology of men.
It’s like learning how to bake a cake for the first time. If you follow the recipe, you will end up with a great cake. If you decide to just throw together a bunch of ingredients, you’ll probably end up with a great big mess.
The search for love is the same. Once you know the recipe – the ingredients that are required, you will know how to attract an amazing man and create the relationship that you dream of. If you just wing it, you end up with conflict, heartache, and pain.
Start Dating
The first thing that you need to do is create a dating profile online and start dating. Dating apps are some of the best resources out there and I personally believe that if you are not online, you are not serious about finding love. All you have to do is be willing to invest an hour or two of your day into browsing through dating apps – it is worth it! Remember – you are investing in your LOVE LIFE, the most important area of your life! Online dating is at a peak right now and it is the perfect time – so stop making excuses, be bold, and get out there. Just remember to be patient and persistent.
When I went on over 100 dates on my journey, there were two things I knew for sure.
1. I was going to experience many BAD dates
2. I WAS going to find the man I want to marry – no matter what.
You have to decide that you will find love no matter what. Because you know that your one is out there, waiting to meet you.
That is exactly what I did and it was my determination and persistence (not a stroke of luck) that led me to the love of my life, to the one person with whom I felt a sense of certainty that I never had before. Zero doubts.
Yes, dating requires you to get out of your comfort zone. But all of the most beautiful things in life come to us when we step out of our comfort zone. The rewards are enormous. The reward is having someone wake up next to you every day, look into your eyes and tell you that you are the most beautiful woman in the world – and truly mean it.
If you start with anything, start with an online dating profile. And remember that action WILL lead to results.
Those who focus on themselves, on the love that IS present in their lives, are the ones that will attract it.
Focus On You
One of the most important prerequisites to finding a great partner is to create a life of abundance. A life that you love regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.
You can’t spend all of your energy wondering where your prince charming is – you have to focus on YOU. Live your life in a way that makes you happy, excited, and interesting. Find what you love, the things that truly make you feel good and bring warmth to your heart. Learn to enjoy your own company. Grow into the woman that you want to become.
The more positive energy you create and focus on, the more of it you will attract.
When you take care of your mind and body, when you find YOURSELF interesting, men will too. Remember – you have to decide how truly important it is for you to find a real, authentic commitment for life. The answer to the question “will I ever find love?” is YES. But only if you truly want it to be.
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Let me know what your thoughts on finding love for life are and what is holding YOU back.
Wishing you love and happiness always.
XoXo,
Darya