I believe in the goodness of people. I know dating is complicated and nothing is more frustrating than feelings. We don’t want to admit to ourselves that we care about potential dates because it means that they might eventually hurt us.
It’s typical to pretend, in fact, that we don’t care until it’s safe to express those feelings. Hopefully you’re learning that being happy with yourself allows you to care about someone else in a way that isn’t self –preserving. When you truly care for people you want the best for them emotionally, physically and mentally. You want them to be their best self and live their best life. It isn’t always easy because we want to feel cared for in returned.
No one wants to feel like they are the only ones contributing in the relationship. We want to feel just as wanted, secure and cared about as we try to make others feel.
That would be ideal, if everyone just cared for everyone else we could all feel complete but that isn’t life. Insecurities cause many single people to care more about how the other person is treating them instead of how their partner is feeling.
You’re allowed to put yourself first in dating, that’s the best part. You can care about someone deeply but it doesn’t mean you have to stick around and put up with their bullsh*t. You only have to extend yourself as someone who wants to help, who wants the best for them by:
- Accepting them for who they are
- Understanding where they’re coming from
- Avoid forcing something that isn’t meant to be
If you can do these three things, you’ll be someone who truly cares.