Nothing would make me happier than if you got out there and started dating.
If you’ve been frustrated about where to meet potential dates let me suggest modern technology: dating apps.
Many singles don’t like online dating and you may be one of them, I get it. As a dating expert I work closely with singles to craft an online story that attracts their ideal partner.
Not everyone has the luxury of me as a coach so it’s no surprise that you may not realize it’s your profile that’s holding you back from success.
A killer profile can make the difference when it comes to meeting high quality dates online. What’s exciting about dating apps and online dating, more so than traditional dating, is that you have more control of your presentation. There are no bad hair days when it comes to online dating.
You control your pictures, bio and who you like. What’s improved over traditional online dating is that the moment two people like each other a match is made and you can instantly start chatting. With meeting new people as easy as it’s ever been, why do so many singles struggle to get results?
Online dating and dating apps are not a last resort. There is no reason to look any worse in a picture than you do online. With a hyper-focus on appearance it’s even more important that you choose photos for your profile that make you look hot.
It’s when choosing photos singles are faced with the realization that they don’t feel so good looking. In person you can’t see your own face. It’s easy to pretend that you have the confidence of a 7 when you really feel like a 4.
With online dating you can’t hide from your own appearance. Its apparent in many photos how people feel about themselves because some users fail to choose flattering photos.
Your photos are your calling card, so make them attractive. Only add pictures that make you seem attractive and interesting. Blurry photos, extreme close-ups, group photos and bad selfies ruin the experience for the viewer. Take a look at the photos from profiles you like and you’ll notice that the pictures are clear and in focus.
You’ll notice that the person is typically smiling and engaging in an activity that they love. If you don’t highlight photos that show your best side you’ll come across as not serious. Ask a friend to take new photos to make sure that you look your best.
Your bio isn’t as important as your photo but a captivating bio can only enhance your profile. Create a bio that is compelling and well-crafted. Use your bio to answer the question: What are you looking for. If it speaks to a potential date then they will swipe right on your profile.
Looks aside, it’s your entire presentation that draws people to you.
Treat your profile as you would if you were approaching someone in real life. If you wouldn’t say it in person then don’t post it online. Remember to keep updating your profile if you’re not making any connections. If you’re profile isn’t attracting the right people, update it.
They way you choose who to swipe right on can make a huge to your dating success. Unlike traditional online dating, modern apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge alert you the moment you have a mutual match and allow you to get the conversation started. When deciding what profile to like there are only two critical questions you should answer: Are they my type and am I theirs?
The goal isn’t to find your soul mate; the goal is to make matches. If you lose sight of this goal at any point in time then you aren’t using dating apps properly. You should only qualify profiles on these two questions.
Don’t bypass anyone who would seemingly swipe right on you because the more matches mean more options. (This is a theory I’ve tested and believe to be true.)
Most dating apps weed out the undesirables by their low number of matches. The fewer matches you have the fewer profiles you’ll be shown. To increase your odds of finding new dates it’s smart to be less critical when swiping. I hope this was helpful.