Are you looking for a way to text a girl you like but don’t know where to begin? Well, you are not alone. Many people face this problem on a daily basis. Having a crush on someone gives you the sort of giddy feeling you won’t have with anything else.
Knowing someone new and falling in love with them can be very exciting.
But how do you let them know you have a special feeling toward them? Should you call them or text them?
Talking to them can be a nerve-racking experience. And this means it would be best if you just texted them. So, what should you say in the text? What is the best text to send them that will not scare them away but rather get you a text back?
There are many text ideas for your crush. Due to timing, some may be more appropriate than others. In this guide, we will be looking at eight things you can text your crush before it’s too late.
There are two key elements you should be focusing on:
- Timing. Texting your crush too late may be one of the things you will live to regret forever. We understand you may get nervous every time you think she may reject your proposal, but such fear should not keep you from going for the person you love.
- What to say. You probably want to be extra careful with what you say over text. On the one hand, you need to win her over and get a date with her to have a good chat. On the other hand, you don’t want to scare her off. For this reason, what you say in the text should be well thought out.
The texts I will be sharing with you here can be helpful tips to set you on the right track.
Things you should know first
Before looking at these texts, there are a few rules we need to establish here. This is because we may not move far without understanding what you will be facing.
Texting a crush is different to dating her
The main reason people text their crush is because talking to them face-to-face may not be easy. Having a crush on someone is not the same as dating them.
At this point, you are only trying to know her. And perhaps she doesn’t even know you yet.
Also, you may like her, but she doesn’t like you back as you would expect. Hence, many people get disappointed and even cut off communication. This is the worst mistake you can ever make if you are serious about the person.
The crush may be your best friend, a person you have been with for very long. It’s important to understand how they feel about certain things so that you don’t bring up topics that may paint you negatively.
It would be best if you were vulnerable over text
It is not about what you want, but getting the other person to trust you. The key idea here is to show vulnerability while remaining laid-back/informal.
It would help if you were as honest and real as possible. But since you are still new to the relationship, you may not want to open up too much. Nevertheless, sending messages with a measure of casualness is crucial.
Aim for more
As much as texting can be a great way to start the relationship, you should not want it to extend too much. It feels better sitting next to her, perhaps holding her hand and listening to her laugh.
Aim for a date
As soon as you feel comfortable with the conversation, ask her if you can meet in person to talk more. You will be glad you did this because it helps you take things to the next level.
Now, whether you want to get straight to the point with “I love you,” or you want to start slowly, the following eight texts may save you from regret.
1. “Hi Cindy, this is Peter. Save my contact.”
You finally got the courage to ask for her number, and she was happy enough to give it. How long should you wait before texting her?
As stated above, one of the most important things to remember here is that timing is key. Also, the first text you send, the ‘icebreaker’, should send the right message.
This text is one of the best icebreakers to start something solid with her. Don’t wait until the next day to send it to her.
Send this text immediately after getting her number. You don’t want to wait until the next day.
Here are some reasons why you will regret not sending it earlier:
- She gave you her number with expectations. Every girl has expectations when they give out their number. It could be that they are expecting you to send them a text as soon as possible. Waiting for too long may kill that mood.
- You may not be the only one interested in her. All girls love attention. They want someone who can show them the love they need so much. Chances are you are not the only person looking to give her this. Therefore, you don’t want to wait too long before sending this message.
Note that you should not expect a response from such a text. But if she replies, it could simply be that she is polite. You don’t have to respond either.
If she’s kind enough to reply it usually means she’s an outgoing person.
2. It was great seeing you. I can’t wait to meet you again.
As stated above, texting can be great fun. But that should not be your main goal. You want to get her on a date as soon as possible.
This is a text you can send the day after your first encounter. And here are the reasons why you should send it as soon as possible:
- It’s a great conversation starter. It is not easy to find the perfect line to start a conversation. Therefore, you should take advantage of every idea you have to take things in the right direction. This text tells the girl how much you enjoyed seeing her, and it will trigger a reaction.
- It will get you a text back. Getting a text back is not easy. And this is why you need a text that has the right ingredients. This one compliments her while not being too flirty.
- It’s simple. Texting is different to verbal communication, where you can use all the words you need. This text is short and clear.
From her reaction, you can gauge whether the girl is also interested in meeting you and if there could be something more than just a friendship. If she says that she cannot wait to meet you again, hurry up and set a date.
3. There is this new *activity* in town this weekend. Would you like to come and check it out with me?
Find out if there any new events and activities in your town and if she likes them. And then don’t waste time inviting her out. You can even go ahead and buy the tickets upfront so that you just head out to the show once she says yes.
This text may seem simple, but there are many reasons why it works.
Also, this is the text you send a few days after the meeting. You don’t want to wait too long to send it.
- It will get you a text back. You will only know your text is effective if you send it and receive some response. And questions are the best way to set a conversation in motion. It could be a new movie showing up in cinemas, or a new sport in your locality.
- It can get you a date. It’s always great when you get the chance to talk to the girl face-to-face, and this could be a great way to ask her out without being too direct. She may also be expecting the same.
However, be sure that she has an interest in the event you are talking about. It helps if the two of you have shared interests, as it becomes easier to find topics to discuss.
4. Are you free to grab some *food/drink* this evening?
Asking your crush on a date can be hard. You don’t know if she will say yes, or if she will reject the offer.
But with the right text, you can get her anywhere.
Asking her if she is free at a certain time shows that you are sensitive to her time. It tells her that you are polite and can give her time to decide at her leisure.
Also, the text has to include food or a drink. This gives her the option to choose from. If she’s hungry, she’ll go for the food, and if she isn’t, then the drink will be a good option.
5. Do you believe in soulmates?
A soulmate is a great idea that most people think about. But some people don’t care about it, and they don’t even wish to have anything to do with such a notion.
However, this is an idea that you can use to find out if the girl likes you as much as you like her. And here are some reasons why you should not delay in sending it:
- You will find out where she stands faster. It would be better if you knew what your crush thinks about you sooner rather than later. If she likes you, this will give you a chance to take the conversation to the next level, perhaps ask her out. And if she does not like you in the way you expect, you can take a different approach.
- It can get you a date. As you can see, we have insisted on taking things further with all these texts. And this one should be no different. The text will get you a date as you start opening up to each other.
6. Would you like to come camping this weekend with my friends and me?
The easiest way to get close to your crush is if you do it in a group. And this is why this question will always work for you.
Again, the aim here is getting her on a date so that you can talk more about your interests.
It’s always a good idea to start by asking her if she is free at that particular time. Doing this is a sign of politeness and shows her you are considerate.
This text can be sent a few days after you start chatting. You don’t want to wait too long before sending it.
7. Have you ever fallen in Love with your bestie?
Here is another question you don’t want to wait too long before asking. You send this text to your best-friend-crush.
Falling in love with your best friend can be very confusing. But it will be even harder once you start seeing her go out with another guy.
For this reason, you don’t want to wait too long before asking her out.
If she says no, she’s lying. It happens often that people develop crushes for their best friends, and it’s always a daunting experience.
This question is a great conversation starter, and it will lead you on the path to a great future in your relationship.
8. ” I love you”
Sometimes it’s easier and better to get straight to the point and let her know how you feel through a text.
Besides, this is one of the things you should text your crush without delay. Let her know immediately that you have a special feeling toward her.
It is better to tell her early than to wait and regret as someone else takes her. And if your crush is your best friend, you want to tell her this as soon as possible.
These eight messages are a good way to get your relationship to the next level. Be sure to send them as soon as you feel the chemistry between you and her.